The True Colors Blog

EMOTIONAL SOBRIETY

Does your life feel like it streams in black and white....or worse yet, shades of grey? Our lives are meant to flow in technicolor!

My name is Amy, and I'm excited to help you bring the color back into your life.

Your energy vibration (your color) arrives before YOU do and informs the world of your intentions and your self esteem. What message are you sending? Many of us see the world in two ways: the life that IS and the life we WISH we could have. The recent publicity about the Law of Attraction and the power of thought has helped restore a sense of hope. But, many of us are overwhelmed and feel as if this thinking is DENIAL of what IS. I don't claim to have "a secret". What I do is show you EXACTLY, (step by step) how to blend your wished for life with the life you are currently living. By shifting your energy field's colors (the electrical messages you are sending into the world), we gain control of emotions, mood swings, and the general overwhelm sensations we have all experienced. EMOTIONAL SOBRIETY is peace and confidance.

I specialize in Energy Compatibility, which is working with and fine tuning your specific color and vibrational patterns to heal current relationships, as well as attract the relationship your heart desires.

Are you in a relationship that is troubled or difficult? Do you find yourself attracting what feels like the same person over and over? Do you recognize emotional moods that consistently interfere with your happiness? Do you have a sense of urgency to realize more of your spiritual nature and life purpose? Only so much progress can be made working on thoughts alone. Some of us have been operating on energy patterns we learned as children. By learning how your energy system operates and shifting old patterns, we get right to the SOURCE of limited behaviors. While this may sound like work, it's actually FUN and a tremendous relief to have the keys to busting negative patterns forever.

My clients are all highly motivated people who are ready to commit to learning a system that is life changing. I invite you to a free "get acquainted" session to determine if you are one of my special family of clients. Please review the pages listed in the right column for more detailed information or email me here amy@truecolorscoaching.com to schedule a get acquainted session. I'm excited to meet you!

When in doubt....GOLD

I'm often asked which colors do what. LOADED question as the situation and the way the color feels to YOU is going to fluctuate. There's no universal , catch all color except white. We have all heard the "surround yourself in white light" mantra. Each color and it's quality is a unique vibration and understood by spirit in a very personal way. But, over the years I have found that one color works for almost everyone.

Super shiny, almost metallic gold.....or it's variation of amber ( brownish gold like honey or the gem stone amber) seems to be a univerally understood color and works FAST on many issues and in many situations. It works to heal, so it can be visualized within the body. It works to clear energy from a room or a conversation and also works really well to manifest. Applying shiny gold to a goal , an idea, a project...will really open it up!

The only place I have not been successful with gold is with animals and plants. It seems to upset them, and be too strong and unsettling for my dog, and my houseplants too. For them, I tone it down to amber or even a light yellow.

Gold is an attractor color.....USE this, play with it.....tell me how it goes.

OUCH!

Over the weekend, I enjoyed the lure of warm sunny weather and hopped out to the yard to pull a few unsightly weeds. Nice excuse to be outdoors and yet ....when I had done gardening in the past, I have often hunched over too much and ended with a scrunched lower back. Cramped up lower back pain is not fun, so I decided to alter my position and protect my back this time. My intentions were good. But, YIKES....I ended up Saturday night with massive pain in my abdomen. Like the pain of too many sit-ups after not working out a long time....only worse! I couldn't get out of bed....once I got IN there I couldn't get comfortable and then I couldn't get back OUT without severe pain. I have been walking around here hunched over for three days. Finally started sleeping sitting up on the couch so it would be easier to get to a standing position. So, why am I telling you this story???? Because I believe there is a reason for everything we do and everything that happens to us. But, for three days all I was doing is whining to myself about how much pain I'm having. ME, the symbolic energy lady.....whining!

We all have challenges that throw us off our game plan. The bigger the challenge...the more it has to offer in terms of learning opportunity. I didn't want to learn....I just wanted the pain to stop!! I wanted my life back...my poor puppy didn't get her walks because I couldn't stand up straight. I WANT MY LIFE BACK. So, finally....after amusing myself with too much TV, I asked my body what it was trying to tell me. I put my hands on the two most painful spots and asked and here's the reply:

"who do you think you are? a healer knows she must take care of herself FIRST. what's all this stuff you think you have to get done BEFORE you take care of yourself? And why all the focus on aging??? that's got to stop, or you will actually AGE. what happened to your regular Pilates exercise? muscles are angry....cramped up and angry with you for not dancing. red and raw....angry. Need for purple...and dancing. NOW."

OOPS....Did it really take me three days to ask? Yes, it did. I know I teach this stuff and expect my clients to do their homework. But, I wanted you all to know I'm very human. I DO understand your bad days and reluctance to use the tools I give you. I have no excuse, and I'm really embarrassed to admit all this but I feel it will help you guys to be kinder to yourselves for having bad days.  I need a teacher too and I hadn't been asking for help and advice enough. It took great pain to get my attention to how I was taking my body for granted.

I am finally standing up straight....though VERY tender , ....ran some purple down my spine, did as much pilates as I could around the injury and did a little dance while I washed up the dishes. Just a little shuffle, but it felt GOOD.  I slipped as your role model this week.....I can and WILL do better.

Cooling Off

Most of the west coast is under a heat wave at the moment. Temperatures predicted in the 90's for my usually cool Olympic Pennisula TOO. So, I asked Harry this morning for the best way to stay cool.

Indigo....the color of night sky, a deep navy/purply hue, very very dark and shiny like a lake at midnight. And here's what we do....Start at the back of your skull, visualize the cool midnight color running down the spine. Do this slowly as it's a very internal vision. When it hits the tailbone, let it run down the bones in your legs (again INside) seems to be the rule here. And then allow it to puddle under your feet. Apparently the visual being very internal to the body is what cools it off. Most of our visuals have been sort of OUTside and around the body. But, it's HOT here folks!!

Try this , it works. I started to shiver before I even got to my legs!

I've been asked to explain color a bit more lately, so I will be devoting some posts to the everyday uses of different colors. Let's have some fun and be sure and report your experiences.

Landing on the Moon

Once upon a time, a beloved president gave a speech in which he challenged his generation to put a man on the moon in the next decade. Now, clearly ....this was not possible at the time. It was an idea and most likely based on projections and possibilities but still just an idea. It didn't exist and could have been regarded as outrageous and impossible. NASA pulled it off. Now, to the point of this little history paragraph. If NASA scientists had allowed their egos to argue with them.....would this have happened? What if your basic rocket scientist had said "I can't focus on that because it doesn't exist yet and I feel like I'm pretending" or "If I don't see immediate results , I'm afraid I can't have that" or "What if I'm not good enough and congress gets tired of waiting and I fail and congress takes away my funding?"

Clearly, walking on the moon was not possible on the day the president declared his intentions for our space program. I often hear the arguments from clients (and admittedly I'm good at it too) that they feel like they are pretending when they focus on attracting what they desire because it's "not there yet". What is pretending ?? Is that such a bad thing? Aren't we pretending all the time anyway? Our lives are created by a series of intentions and then repeated focus. EVERYTHING in our lives didn't exist at one time. Right? And how did it come into form? By visualizing, choosing, and repeating. We pretend all the time. Why is it we think that bad relationships and lack of money and PROBLEMS are real but what we would like to experience is pretend? How did the bad relationships and the money problems get there? There's no puppetmaster dumping things on us folks. We pretended all the things we are experiencing in form before they became form. So, why not pretend something we would enjoy more?

This is Mission Control......"GO FLIGHT"

Make a list today of what you see in front of you that wasn't there a few months or years ago and track back how you pretended it. I dare you!!!!

The Victim Rears it's Ugly Head

The post about the word WHY being a weapon has prompted a good discussion and I'm grateful for your comments. This is how we all learn!! We have to share this stuff so we don't feel like we are all wrong inside. The sharing shows us that we can heal , if we can recognize the patterns.

WHY is the favorite dodge used by the internal victim. We all have one of those and it's a PROGRAM taught to us by a society that worships victimhood. Basically folks, it's not your fault you have a victim living inside you. The media, the government, our parents and friends all help to defend the poor victim in us all. The downtrodden, picked on, helpless self is fed and nourished by our culture on a daily basis. But, those of us who are spiritually awake and growing find it so hard to think independently with all this encouragement. Right? Well, yes and yet.....isnt' that thought the victim too? Just because we are taught and it's encouraged , is no excuse to not unmask that poor sucker!

Carolyn Myss has done some profound work involving archetypes that operate in us all and the victim is one of the four that is universal. I have heard her suggest that the victim longs to be Victorious. It's purpose IS to be victorious. So, it's beginning to look like what triggers the "poor me" mood is just the beginning of the real issue. When we recognize the victim showing up .....ask this question. "In what way can this problem, or condition become a victory?" YES, it's true....I'm back to suggesting we replace WHY with What, Where, How and What. 

"What can I do to fix this , learn from this , etc.?" "How can I use this to grow?" "Where is the lesson in this dilemma?" "What one thing can I learn from this today?"

The whole subject of victimhood is huge. It has many disguises and our nasty little monster ego self uses them all with relish!! But, we can shift this ...we really can. If we can just notice the use of language , it becomes the key to replacing the whole pattern of victimhood.  It's a small but incredibly powerful energy shift ......notice WHY and reword the thought. I dare you!!!

Keep me posted on your progress and again, thanks for sharing such honest reactions to these posts. You guys are PRECIOUS!!!

Kristi is the bomb!!

I LOVE interacting on this blog! Kristi's recent comment on losing the word WHY has opened a new door in my brain. Everyone needs to read it for yourselves, but the part that hit me like a ton of bricks was this: asking why is control.....asking why is alot like getting ready to blame someone or something. I'm paraphrasing, but WOW!!

I never saw that using the endless loop WHY question was a way of controlling my environment but now that I look honestly at that??? It's true! I have always known it was a stall....a way of avoiding taking action in the moment. But, setting up to blame?? That's brilliant and I want to thank Kristi for teaching me today.

I totally encourage comments and interactions. Admittedly, I was hoping clients could have an insightful discussion this way and learn from each other....never realized that I could learn here too. It humbles me. Even though I have my fabulous guide Harry to feed me wisdom, obviously I can and need to learn from everyone. KUDOS to Kristi ...who has learned to be honest about her agendas. Let's get everyone in on this.

Where and how and when do you use the WHY dodge????

But, WHY????

I'm working on losing the word why from my vocabulary. The need, the almost whining quality of asking "why" has blocked me for years. Now, I find many of my clients are stuck with the same pattern. So, let's lose this word....at least for awhile.

Asking "why?" is an engraved invitation to the negative ego, (the ever present, nagging monster that lives in our heads). Egos go off in all directions , looking for the elusive answer to the question and that seems good. Right? But, it's a trap folks! The answer to why is seldom available, but the redundant ego mind will try to answer it anyway. WITH ANYTHING. The usual answer will involve depression, judgement, fuel for regret, or worse yet.....another why question. I've come to the conclusion that asking why is a stall. It's my favorite way of refusing to move forward ...after all, I have to find the research the reason WHY something is what it is , or has occured. Isn't it my responsibility to know the source? Wouldn't knowing the source of the problem suggest it's solution? Maybe....occasionally....sometimes. But, usually not. Since the brain likes to think and research our memory banks, ...YES, there is a satisfaction in knowing the reason why things happen as they do. But, guess what? It's still a stall. And it's become a nasty habit.

New habit: Catch yourself asking WHY for a week. Keep some notes on this as it will show you which area of your life you are avoiding. Then replace the dreaded WHY word with What? How? Where? When? (the other newspaper words) Questions beginning with these words will lead you somewhere forward. I left my "tip of the week" for many weeks now as it's really the best tip I know. Asking a better question , using a better starting word will be life changing.

Send me your experiences!! Anything you have to share on the elimination of why ....will help us all. Keep the comments coming!

What's Your Mission?

Today, I wrote a mission statement. Well, a new one! In looking over my life script and my daily activities I was stunned to see how they seemed to all be veering off in different directions. While all my activities are healthy, they seem to be disconnected from each other.

Lately, in my work with archetypes ....it's become very clear that none of them are team players! With the exception of my child archetype really liking to play with artist /addict archetype....all the others are loners and into their own agendas. THERE IS NO TEAM!! Could this be the reason my organization often gets off track? Why I seem to be restarting my systems and simplifying clutter in an endless and predictable cycle? I live alone now with my little dog, and very little clutter and yet ...the things I love to do and play with don't seem to be supportive of each other. Distractions are at a minimum, but there's a lack of flow. Know what I mean?

I have often thought that ALL my daily activities should be supportive of a single life mission but until today , I didn't have one. Not one SINGLE mission. I had several mission statements. One for my business, one for my creative life, one for my health and home.....that's at least three lives. So, I got on google, looked at several templates for personal mission statements and started my new statement. THE  ONE statement which births my WHOLE days activities.

Needless to say, it's too long! So, I'm working it out and talking to guidance to get it succinct and powerful. I will keep you posted and POST the end result shortly.

Meanwhile, I strongly suggest you all to consider writing one of your own. And please feel free to post it here to help us all to get clear.

Guilt as limbo

I can only speak for myself here.....and we must remember I grew up in an Episcopal household (often refered to as Catholic Light). But, I feel that GUILT is a trap. It's a state of limbo. A never ending black hole of an emotion. And it's a really really good excuse to do nothing about a situation or memory that haunts me. I once heard it said that guilt is anger that we don't feel we have the right to have. And that having guilt makes us impotent....it's a wasted state of being that cannot be used for anything. All the other emotions have purpose and messages. What was suggested is that we turn guilt into the anger it ACTUALLY is , as anger is an emotion with the power of change built right into it. Anger is a motivator, and can be channeled into growth. But, Guilt???? YIKES!! It's deadly, it's a killer....and it's the biggest , baddest excuse in the whole spectrum of human denial. So, we made mistakes. So what?? What is it to be human? We weren't supposed to be perfect. We came here to learn and so there will be actions that don't work out the way we thought they would. Or decisions that take us into pain. But, isn't that the point? What are mistakes anyway? Do they exist? Or are we all just trying different things daily to see what happens? And then , hopefully, not repeating the things that felt bad?

Twenty nine years ago I was a drunk. My choices led me down a very painful path , but was that a mistake? Or was it the most powerful experience of change in my entire lifetime? Certainly I hurt myself and many other people while drinking. And I most certainly have experienced guilt. But, to STAY in guilt would be to deny what the purpose of the pain was. Staying guilty, punishing myself is a waste of power. All experiences turn into wisdom.....ALL of them. 

GUILT....is the death of the spirit. It's the end of possibilities and the refusal to learn, to forgive, to grow and is the weapon of choice for the negative ego. Guilt makes us lay down and die. So, let's just not go there......

DENIAL

There's alot of complaining going on about the Law of Attraction. I've had clients remark that FEELING a desire as if it's already occured makes them feel like they are in denial of what IS a the moment. It occurs to me, that the denial is "on the wrong foot" so to speak. Let me explain.

FEELING what we desire to create as if it's already here is what we do all the time. Bad moods , fears about money, lonliness are all FEELING what we desire. Holding emotions for a length of time absolutely brings you more. More of what we DON'T want. The denial of things as they ARE ....seems to be more about denial that we spent so much time and energy creating our own mess. As I write this, it seems I'm going around in circles. But, let's admit ...once and for all.....that what exists TODAY is the result of what you felt for at least days if not weeks or YEARS. All that the Law wants you to know is that you DID and ask you to decide what tomorrow will be NOW. Let's face it....we got here on our own. Being in denial of what IS today is really just not wanting to face who put it there.